tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post3601472064208301035..comments2023-10-30T08:01:41.566-07:00Comments on The Tao of Poop: Keeping the Peace: Advice from the Trenches of Elementary SchoolAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06644197778332602406noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-31794531699434862812014-02-25T17:19:41.956-08:002014-02-25T17:19:41.956-08:00Thank you so much for your advise. I have really b...Thank you so much for your advise. I have really been struggling in my class trying to keep peace and it has been coming out in a "lose my shit" kind of way. I can't wait to get into my class and really work with them. <br />Thanks again!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00575223695041198787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-76021039166342136572014-02-17T09:35:49.304-08:002014-02-17T09:35:49.304-08:00I think both of you are actually on the same side ...I think both of you are actually on the same side of the fence here, with the "Honest is the best Policy" concept. There are times when you need your child to "get with the program" without negotiation & as you said you have to just help them deal with their anger, sadness tantrum to "win the war". On a daily basis though, when you have the time & opportunity it is soo important to remember that your kids feel as attached to finishing that drawing or puzzle as you might about finishing your work e-mail or news article. I also read something about no interrupting them when they're in a creative or learning process to reinforce that behavior as much as possible. I LOVE this article...LOVE LOVE LOVE. So much great information. Yes, I know (almost) all of it & I still need to hear it & remember to do it. Thank you so much for putting into (fun & interesting) words a magnificent list of reminders!!Tobhiyahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14453669760420626015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-80114298262963377972013-07-16T11:06:19.987-07:002013-07-16T11:06:19.987-07:00Rachel, you have captured the best of what we lear...Rachel, you have captured the best of what we learn about managing young kids well as teachers, and summarized it beautifully! I wish I had written it myself! I certainly plan to share it. You are my kind of gal. That Fun Reading Teacherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01308374178361804626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-26776458782279147522013-07-15T16:36:26.188-07:002013-07-15T16:36:26.188-07:00I absolutley love this list and in all fairness th...I absolutley love this list and in all fairness there are certainly a few of these that i will be trying!<br /><br />thanks for linking up with #MagicMomentsJaime Oliverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04569927452507747191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-68537108731030420672013-07-15T09:10:20.535-07:002013-07-15T09:10:20.535-07:00Brilliant parenting and teaching advice Rachel! My...Brilliant parenting and teaching advice Rachel! My background is high school teaching and everything you wrote could also be applied to working with teenagers. You've obviously had a heap of experience with kids and teaching is clearly your calling in life!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04750195813761527673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-3476775985749395182013-07-15T06:01:22.295-07:002013-07-15T06:01:22.295-07:00When my fiance's daughter was younger she woul...When my fiance's daughter was younger she would often ask for everything under the sun at a store. any store, at the food store she would want THAT and THAT, at Sears she would NEED NEW SHOES. We would explain well you cant have candy this time, because we are here to buy stuff for dinner. Or you can't have new shoes now, because the shoes you have are still good - when they wear out we will let you pick out new ones. ONCE she had an outright meltdown at the mall because she wanted more stuff than what we were already buying her. We put every single thing back quickly and left with nothing. She never gave us a problem again (well now as a tween she tries to push our buttons, but knows her limits for the most parts). Her mom would always ask us why we take her shopping with us since she was such a nightmare. We explained we taught her from the begining that she didnt get stuff just for the sake of leaving the house. We also told the mom we always explained where we were going, and exactly what we were going to buy before we got to the store, so she knew what to expect when we got there. Her mom had always given in and bought her just about everything she wanted every single time they went to any store, because she didnt want to be "mean mom". Then she had to deal with the monster she had created.Dianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07501088156297376048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-16231503309806451632013-07-15T04:40:45.119-07:002013-07-15T04:40:45.119-07:00I have an opinionated little two year old...and i ...I have an opinionated little two year old...and i totally relate to some of the advice...given here..some i have used ...some i plan to now that i know...thanks!Chetshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01713301366907898025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-25651455730444607462013-07-14T13:55:09.443-07:002013-07-14T13:55:09.443-07:00What a very useful and informative post. Lots of p...What a very useful and informative post. Lots of positivity and constructive pieces of information for your husband - and for other people here. TI shall certainly bookmark and come back to it when I need it :) Thank you so much for linking to PoCoLo xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17488151945036286537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-84671896972916595532013-07-14T13:36:31.791-07:002013-07-14T13:36:31.791-07:00This is a great post Rachel! I think you've go...This is a great post Rachel! I think you've got your outline for your parenting from the trenches book! I've hear a lot of this before, and now that the boy is almost 8 some is relevant and some not so much anymore. But all of it is extremely valuable. I think the best part of this whole post is that your husband was willing to listen! (ok not the best part, but that is great and you should feel lucky :-) )JenKehl.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00554791522281508816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-87518969326179819042013-07-13T20:07:01.974-07:002013-07-13T20:07:01.974-07:00"Tempestuous"....now there's a word ..."Tempestuous"....now there's a word we just don't use often enough. :-)The Provision Roomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00368915745404217340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-90047136021109721112013-07-12T20:09:35.937-07:002013-07-12T20:09:35.937-07:00NOt preachy at all! Rather super helpful!!! Thanks...NOt preachy at all! Rather super helpful!!! Thanks!LOVE MELISSA:)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17817113883788123693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-73909492869079070212013-07-12T16:16:24.438-07:002013-07-12T16:16:24.438-07:00very insightful, helpful advice.
~Lorelai
Hoppin...very insightful, helpful advice.<br /><br />~Lorelai<br /><br />Hopping by from the Friday Flash Blog Party! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-19694222911045908002013-07-11T19:41:53.013-07:002013-07-11T19:41:53.013-07:00The time is now...that one has me thinking. Genius...The time is now...that one has me thinking. Genius and such a small change. SMD @ lifeaccordingtostephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09884611147965544589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-55708005745777105852013-07-11T18:22:23.302-07:002013-07-11T18:22:23.302-07:00This is great!! I use many of my teaching strategi...This is great!! I use many of my teaching strategies in my parenting, too, though I teach high schoolers {though now that I think about it.... sometimes the behaviors are quiet similar!}. I totally agree on not demanding that they do something right away... I am very much a get-it-done-now person, and I get so impatient with my children. I definitely need to work on letting them clean up on their timeline if it's not an immediate need. I also have found the acknowledging of their feelings and expressing empathy helps a lot. And I agree with Stephanie ~ you definitely should share more advice!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06899550611941829240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-54562606371727167722013-07-11T15:08:17.092-07:002013-07-11T15:08:17.092-07:00I love you even more for saying that. I love you even more for saying that. Kristi Campbellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08340629559188847788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-37220357806080755512013-07-11T13:23:57.613-07:002013-07-11T13:23:57.613-07:00This is brilliant, Rachel. Absolutely brilliant. I...This is brilliant, Rachel. Absolutely brilliant. I just shared it on my FB page, and I will share it everywhere I can because I think so many parents can benefit from this practical advice. As a teacher, therapist, and Love and Logic parent, there is so much value in your suggestions. They are do-able for busy parents to implement and understand. Great job with this- you should give advice more often! ;)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00013599048413321239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-29875543499894508482013-07-11T08:40:22.779-07:002013-07-11T08:40:22.779-07:00I agree! even the smallest of us wants to feel re...I agree! even the smallest of us wants to feel respected and loved and simple strategies like this helps covey those feelings. I do not like using incentives, I want my kids to just do things because they are the right thing to do, but my oldest son reminds me that bribes are the fastest and easiest way to get things done!momto8https://www.blogger.com/profile/13964950285763339907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-67800900625507178752013-07-11T07:53:27.476-07:002013-07-11T07:53:27.476-07:00Thank you, Diane. I'm so glad. And thank you f...Thank you, Diane. I'm so glad. And thank you for sending it on...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06644197778332602406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-166599258205644992013-07-11T07:39:21.783-07:002013-07-11T07:39:21.783-07:00So I sound preachy, eh, Rich?! :) I have many thou...So I sound preachy, eh, Rich?! :) I have many thoughts on your comment. First, I don't disagree that children should have expectations. It's what I said in my tip about transitioning to lunch. Second, I am sorry to disagree with you, but a young child is not developmentally at a place to understand "stop what you are doing and you can get back to it later." They generally do not have that sophisticated of a notion of time and sequence. I agree that later in a child's life that this is a great lesson in delaying gratification. Third, back to the expectations thing. I have a feeling that your wife gives you a heads-up before you need to do something, at least some of the time, or you have some sense that it's coming. And, if she doesn't give you a heads-up, I have a feeling that you don't always jump when she yells "boo" (except for an emergency). There have probably been times when you spend a few minutes finishing up your sports activity or whatever you are doing. Of course, I'm assuming here, but I'm also really talking about what occurs for me when someone asks me to do something. I just don't think it is unreasonable to have the same expectations that we have for ourselves for our children. It's not only reasonable, it's practical. Fourth, I am absolutely not talking about letting a child do what he or she wants. I'm talking about the manner in which we interact to get the child to do the things that we want.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06644197778332602406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-57244854753377959732013-07-11T07:30:19.948-07:002013-07-11T07:30:19.948-07:00As always, Rachel, concise, clear, interesting and...As always, Rachel, concise, clear, interesting and EMINENTLY VALUABLE. Thank you!<br />P.S. Sending this on . . .Diane Stringam Tolleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09629946536985545457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-60203737609085340482013-07-11T07:15:12.154-07:002013-07-11T07:15:12.154-07:00I know you have, Lanaya. You have been so beautifu...I know you have, Lanaya. You have been so beautifully open and honest about your struggles on your blog. I completely agree about letting go. If we don't, we just drown in struggles with kids. It's important to pick our battles. Kids are much more brittle than we are!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06644197778332602406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-66043834585201743342013-07-11T07:14:06.092-07:002013-07-11T07:14:06.092-07:00Kristi, it's great to hear that there was valu...Kristi, it's great to hear that there was value for you. I'm not surprised. I was a special education teacher and my words come from my experience with this population. It's another example of how kids are kids, and how kids with disabilities are not necessarily that different from the rest of us. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06644197778332602406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-35211530917939607432013-07-11T07:12:36.630-07:002013-07-11T07:12:36.630-07:00I'm so glad it came across as intended, Jessic...I'm so glad it came across as intended, Jessica!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06644197778332602406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-37366938972921568422013-07-11T07:12:21.332-07:002013-07-11T07:12:21.332-07:00Yup. I feel your pain. Nothing works, sometimes! I...Yup. I feel your pain. Nothing works, sometimes! It's like a never ending Aikido match!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06644197778332602406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-21465540463492521872013-07-11T07:11:25.420-07:002013-07-11T07:11:25.420-07:00I'd love to come visit, Sarah! I haven't b...I'd love to come visit, Sarah! I haven't been to Iowa in years!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06644197778332602406noreply@blogger.com