tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post7689147891853587299..comments2023-10-30T08:01:41.566-07:00Comments on The Tao of Poop: The ABC's of FeelingsAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06644197778332602406noreply@blogger.comBlogger73125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-26298646905312920732013-03-12T17:08:42.218-07:002013-03-12T17:08:42.218-07:00Oh we have that book and love it... nothing like b...Oh we have that book and love it... nothing like being able to smile and giggle about all kinds of different emotions to realise that it is ok to have them.<br /><br />And in a perfect world we'd react better to our kids big or difficult feelings, as well as to our own. But sadly our world is not perfect and some days all you can do is try to do better next time.katefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13498070846839816977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-13646731890204172652013-03-11T08:26:08.371-07:002013-03-11T08:26:08.371-07:00Just wanted to add to everyone saying this is a gr...Just wanted to add to everyone saying this is a great post - <br />I'm trying to teach myself to use phrases like "You're sad, I hear you" and "I'm listening" instead of "Don't worry" and "It's okay" for the exact reasons you mention. It isn't easy! But I find that every time I tell her "it's okay to be sad" then the feeling, the realisation that that's true for me as well, starts to sink in a little deeper.<br /><br />On another note, I'm afraid of balloons and always have been! But I promise you that otherwise I'm a confident and competent person :) Things that are scary don't have to make sense or be actually dangerous. I simply hate the noise of them popping so it makes me anxious to be around them because they might pop any time. I can't relax if there's a balloon around. But I reckon we're all allowed some little quirks like that!Smaychelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01241574140139262790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-68596272810521984122013-03-06T18:27:33.971-08:002013-03-06T18:27:33.971-08:00I've found that I get over things so much easi...I've found that I get over things so much easier when I allow myself to really feel them rather than try to pretend that I'm okay when I'm not. Shellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06811697675090627618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-70833807944556635562013-03-06T12:53:42.297-08:002013-03-06T12:53:42.297-08:00aw thanks thats a lovely thing to sayaw thanks thats a lovely thing to sayThe Monkohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02015980234917286789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-79053303731006085392013-03-06T10:22:58.101-08:002013-03-06T10:22:58.101-08:00We started using sign language at an early age to ...We started using sign language at an early age to get our oldest to better express her feelings. Her favorite one to use is scared, lol. She'll even use it when her mom & dad are fighting, which usually triggers me to say, 'we better stop for now.' Love Sandra Boynton so I'll go looking.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13928337762462810525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-4438841518901777112013-03-06T07:26:36.374-08:002013-03-06T07:26:36.374-08:00This is so true - it really can be so hard to just...This is so true - it really can be so hard to just let them ride it out and not squash or rescue them from feelings. My husband is so great with our daughter and does deep breathing with her.Melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11664358098975211181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-22081660781520860002013-03-06T05:46:46.129-08:002013-03-06T05:46:46.129-08:00I am going to have to find that book. My son love...I am going to have to find that book. My son loves Sandra Boynton and I love the idea of making sure he is an expert at naming his feelings. I have the same struggles as you, squish those icky feelings down and pretend they don't exist was the mainstay in my house growing up. I am very conscious of not passing that tradition onto my little one.<br /><br />Thank you so much for sharing this today at the Oh HAPPY Day link party! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17204797183314161445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-90957333684001381452013-03-05T16:14:39.444-08:002013-03-05T16:14:39.444-08:00I definitely need one of those books and I love Sa...I definitely need one of those books and I love Sandra Boynton.Linda Royhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11285985403444531922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-79234406660569182402013-03-05T08:38:35.908-08:002013-03-05T08:38:35.908-08:00You are such a strong mama even if at times you mi...You are such a strong mama even if at times you might not feel like it. Beautifully written with such honesty. Love how you write and share. Thanks for linkin up with me!<br /><br />Kristine@thefoleyfamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07311823149705988541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-10080075296266237802013-03-04T17:21:09.889-08:002013-03-04T17:21:09.889-08:00For me, the hardest part about emotions was when m...For me, the hardest part about emotions was when my kids were really young and they were hurt by something another kid did to them at school--if they had been teased or shunned--it was REALLY HARD for me to not want to shake that other kid by the shoulders and say, "STOP BEING SO MEAN TO MY BABY!" or something along those lines. When they hurt, we hurt. But as they grow older, we can't fight their battles for them, and that is the hardest thing of all--standing by helpless when someone else causes your child's unhappiness. You just have to be there to assure them that what they are feeling is OK and be there to support them when they need you. One day at a time, Mama! XOXOmenopausal mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09058933838070665032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-4267695553383003752013-03-04T14:56:08.186-08:002013-03-04T14:56:08.186-08:00I know the coronary feeling well. It is very impor...I know the coronary feeling well. It is very important for them to know their feelings so they can realise it in others too. Fridge magnets with the different emotions on them(homemade) are a good way for kids to let you know how they are feeling.One Mother Henhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12928028285580684170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-28694739353534936812013-03-04T10:05:19.027-08:002013-03-04T10:05:19.027-08:00I think this is important too. It is important for...I think this is important too. It is important for kids to be able to express themselves.<br /><br />Kathy<br />http://gigglingtruckerswife.blogspot.comAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11564863484894692249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-69329266767365698782013-03-04T03:04:09.835-08:002013-03-04T03:04:09.835-08:00Lovely, honest post. I had one parent on each side...Lovely, honest post. I had one parent on each side of the coin and tend to ping-pong between the two extremes myself. With my kids, I make every effort to allow them their feelings and show my own. When mine happen to be over the top, I'm (hopefully) quick to explain that it is about me, not them, and that we each have to learn to take a moment to choose our responses, but that whatever we feel is ok, simply because it is what we feel. Yet, I have yelled with borderline coronaries and I've even spoken those, "It's just a balloon!" words. We're not perfect, we never will be, but I think you demonstrate your capacity as an excellent mom with your awareness of where you stand emotionally. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06789141075935009456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-91376316243013430202013-03-04T01:50:15.668-08:002013-03-04T01:50:15.668-08:00Mine is a very emotional family. We probably expr...Mine is a very emotional family. We probably express our feelings too well. I learned somethings special from you today, it never occurred to me that I should leave people to be sad and deal the feeling on their own, I am always trying to cheer whoever it is, immediately. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15416821190060496527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-42543883305055885352013-03-03T13:35:58.079-08:002013-03-03T13:35:58.079-08:00ha, ha! My daughter has always been loud, since da...ha, ha! My daughter has always been loud, since day one! I totally relate. I think it's good for kids to know that you are affected by them too. It's good advice! Thanks for the pin, always makes me happy. Especially b/c I respect you as a blogger.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06644197778332602406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-79649991229868285222013-03-03T13:34:58.849-08:002013-03-03T13:34:58.849-08:00Yes, it would be great if it just came naturally. ...Yes, it would be great if it just came naturally. But I find that it's something that I need to think about and make happen.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06644197778332602406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-90751584509062016552013-03-03T13:34:22.285-08:002013-03-03T13:34:22.285-08:00That's a lovely thing to say, Joyce. I really ...That's a lovely thing to say, Joyce. I really feel validated by your comment. Thank you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06644197778332602406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-7400344987786471852013-03-03T13:34:01.451-08:002013-03-03T13:34:01.451-08:00Yes, it's true. I just want to learn not to ta...Yes, it's true. I just want to learn not to take my feelings out on my girl.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06644197778332602406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-83620657607568103942013-03-03T13:33:17.028-08:002013-03-03T13:33:17.028-08:00Useless. That's a great word for it. I can tot...Useless. That's a great word for it. I can totally relate.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06644197778332602406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-91892684704070497382013-03-03T13:33:00.914-08:002013-03-03T13:33:00.914-08:00Yes, patience and understanding are the key. Reall...Yes, patience and understanding are the key. Really, nothing more than that!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06644197778332602406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-1539611078574757162013-03-03T13:32:19.643-08:002013-03-03T13:32:19.643-08:00I'm much the same as you, on the good days I a...I'm much the same as you, on the good days I am great at saying "you seem very frustrated" as he lies on the floor of the supermarket kicking and screaming. But on the bad days I just want to yell back and kick and scream too. Its a work in progress. One thing that I have found helps is to acknowledge and name my feelings too. So if Goblin is making me really angry I tell him "I can see you are angry but your screaming is hurting my head and that makes me angry" - That doesn't mean I'm not allowing him to have those feelings, but it would be nice if he had them a bit quieter. <br />I'm pinning your post to the Sunday Parenting Party Pinterest board, thanks for sharingThe Monkohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02015980234917286789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-65103497796574428582013-03-03T13:32:13.585-08:002013-03-03T13:32:13.585-08:00I want her world to be without disappointment, hur...I want her world to be without disappointment, hurt and heartache! Impossible!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06644197778332602406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-21094258020955315532013-03-03T13:31:50.999-08:002013-03-03T13:31:50.999-08:00Thanks, Katherine!Thanks, Katherine!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06644197778332602406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-77908942603028896652013-03-03T13:31:40.674-08:002013-03-03T13:31:40.674-08:00Yes, perfect age for that book!Yes, perfect age for that book!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06644197778332602406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3411498686366661202.post-65589036449645917252013-03-03T13:31:20.463-08:002013-03-03T13:31:20.463-08:00Yes, I'm trying. I'm not always successful...Yes, I'm trying. I'm not always successful, but hopefully she will forgive me my slip-ups!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06644197778332602406noreply@blogger.com