is the mantra that runs through my head, when I'm trying to find a Zen place in the face of a day’s worth of toddler chaos. Unfortunately, a few hours into said day, I start talking back to the voices in my head.
“But this is the THIRD time she’s literally spilled her milk! You said I can’t cry. What about screaming? PLEASE let me scream, please! I’ll feel so much better,” I say plaintively.
Some days, I do scream….but I don’t feel better.
Other days, I remember that I actually subscribe to the philosophy that making messes is part of the process of learning. On good days, I teach my daughter a spirit of experimentation and a love of discovery, unencumbered by the fear of the outcome of her endeavors. I remember that I really love this quote from Roald Dahl.
(Dahl was referring to stuff like climbing trees, but giving a toddler a glass of milk qualifies as “risk” in my book.)
On good days, I give her the space to make messes, so she can learn to clean them up. I show her that mistakes can be opportunities and that mistakes can be fixed.
I am a believer.
What no one told me was how much tension would exist between my tolerance level for chaos and my philosophy about how to grow a healthy child and learner.
How about when motherhood seems a feat of endurance? Bad days where the disaster around me seems to be keeping pace with my internal state of mind. Days when I feel less of an idealistic teacher and more like Sisyphus.
That's when it's best to let go the mantle of both idealist and Sisyphus. I need to strip away my beliefs about how things should go.
Nothing stands between Claire and me -- our relationship is at its most essential.
I see a child just being. I see a mom loving her child and her child's beingness very, very much.
At the heart of the matter, that's all we need to remember.
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