I was suspicious. A relative was taking a curious interest
in Claire’s breastfeeding habits. Her queries came at me with a jagged, little edge. I
wondered about the subtext. Non-committal retorts like “uh-huh” reinforced my
hunch that disapproval lurked just under the surface. As she was saying one
thing, I was hearing another:
She says: When do
you plan on stopping breastfeeding?
I hear: You should
stop breastfeeding.
She says: Has she
started asking for milk?
I hear: When she’s
old enough to say “milk”, she’s old enough to eat ‘real’ food.
She says: Doesn’t
she bite you with all those teeth?
I hear: When she’s
cut a mouth of teeth, she’s old enough to eat ‘real’ food.
She says: Do you
also give her cow’s milk?
I hear: When she’s
old enough to have ‘real food’, you should stop breastfeeding.
She says: What if
she won't stop?
I hear: That baby's gonna be five years old and still on the tit.
She says: What do
you do when you’re outside?
I hear: You should
be ashamed of yourself for breastfeeding a 16-month-old in public.
I wanted the interrogation to stop. But I just calmly provided answers to
the ‘questions’. Really, I'm an unlikely ambassador for breastfeeding. I don’t
want to make people uncomfortable. If other breastfeeding mamas want to make a
statement, they have my blessing. I just want to feed my child.
Yeah, it really is such a fraught issue. I don't understand why people are so uptight about it. And nosey.
ReplyDeleteI feel very understood! Thank you!
DeleteIt's nobody's business---you have to do what you feel is best for your baby girl and ignore the haters! Saw your comment on my blog site and wanted to say thanks for joining up. You write really well and I think what you are doing is admirable---putting your child first!
ReplyDeleteThank you for your kind words and support!
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ReplyDeleteBeen there! I nursed my son for 18 months and daughter for 15 months. It's really none of anyone's business but your own. Maybe next time just respond with "Hmmm...why do you ask?"
ReplyDeleteWhy didn't I think of that? Very good advice.
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